How to Build Your Self Confidence
Self-confidence is an interesting attribute to have. Believe me, I know this.
It is an interesting attribute in such a way that as an individual, it is only natural that you are able to not only trust your decision making process, you also trust your skills.
Naturally, self-confidence, attractive trait; it is trusting in one’s skills, decisions, and characteristics. A good number of people strive to attain a certain level of self-confidence. It provides an avenue for you to maximize your potentials and showcase it. Self-confidence is essential in building and developing oneself as it is needed in almost all phases of life.
Your self-confidence is a projection of your attitude, your thought processes, your views and more. It is further expressed in how you speak how you see yourself, how you carry yourself and the belief you have in your own abilities
Again, you need to understand that confidence starts from your thought processes like I have already highlighted above, it also starts with your mind which is a key attribute of the said thought processes as well.
Let’s examine some quick tips to building self-confidence.
- Understand that knowledge is key
First, it starts from trusting yourself and your abilities, having confidence in you. It is also a reflection of strengths and weaknesses, your motivation, your fears and all your sense of belief. Review your attitude and responses to your career, your social life and your personal relationships.
Stay true to yourself because self-deceit is damaging to personal development. You can start writing about yourself, major highlights in your life. This helps you feel in control as you are more aware of what is happening in and around you and you can choose how to react to them.
- Practice and Develop your skills
Find what you are passionate about; it might be multiple things but start with the one you are most passionate about and start to train yourself. Get professional training if necessary, practice constantly and sharpen your skills. It is okay to make mistakes during the process.
The more you practice, the better you become and this helps you be more confident. You also start to accomplish small wins which also reinforces your trust in your abilities and increases your self-confidence. Doing something you really like makes the process fun and with each milestone you conquer, you become proud of yourself and have total belief in your abilities.
As you get better in a chosen area, start to look at other areas you are interested in and repeat the training cycle.
- Push yourself!
Push yourself! There’s a high chance of relaxing and resting on your oars once you start to accomplish small wins and you’re getting recognized for your work. Don’t get lost in the moment, plan for the future and continually put in the work. Don’t allow complacency to find its way in, looks for ways to be better, be innovative, chart new territories and let the comfort zone be far from you.
Affirm yourself daily, say positive words to yourself, look for/at the bright side of things, be proud of your work and let your imaginations project positive. Set goals for yourself, personal goals and career goals and plan the processes and steps you need to take to achieve those goals. Let your plans be time bound so you can have a sense of responsibility and it’s easier to motivate yourself when you have deadlines. Doing what you love is also a good way to naturally motivate yourself.
- Face your Fears
Once fear kicks in, the resultant effect can be crippling especially for someone who is still finding his/her feet. Fear can come in many forms; it can come through procrastination, through self-doubt, or through external pressure. Fear can cause a stall in progress which may have a multiplying effect on your confidence and personality.
Face your fears head on and be courageous and as written earlier, constantly affirm yourself and build up a brave attitude (brave for the right reasons). Don’t postpone facing your fears, deal with it and move on from it. Also set small short-term goals that are easy to achieve while preparing for the big ones.
- Embrace the good
Surround yourself with positives. Think positive thoughts, socialize with optimistic people, read motivational books, listen to affirmative messages. Whatever you take in is what you would dish out and as the popular saying goes “you can’t give what you don’t have”. Watch what you feed yourself.
Engage in mentally stimulating exercises, play games, engage in sports, socialize and generally have fun. Also when you have low moments and negative thoughts are creeping in, think about your high points, your wins; both major and minor, interesting moments that brought happiness and laughter.